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So I just figure I’d win the match anyway.
I am a fighter by nature, and I don’t take failure for an acceptable answer, especially against mysterious women who can’t fight back. Life is hard, and I intend to make the most of what I have; and pass the baton of Strength on to my children. Whether it is financial, social, health or emotions…there will be thorns somewhere, and if you don’t find a way to deal with them, you will never see the roses.
My faith is my way of finding the roses.
Christian women, in general, are across the board in terms of what they have experienced. I know some women who were raised in the church, got married in the church and now serve in the church and are further raising their kids in said church.
There are other Christian women who found their faith when they were an adult, and have very different stories of how they lived. Of course some were along the lines of, “I drank and partied and lived a hedonistic lifestyle, and then everything changed!” But honestly, not everyone has this story and I think it’s a little pious to declare that every woman who isn’t a Christian is in this spot. That’s a pretty high horse to fall from, and a slippery slope of judgement to start down.
The bottom line is: We’re just going to not touch that horse at all here. The fact of the matter is that we are all sinners, and any facade of seniority means squat in the end. Every woman on earth is a child of God, and every woman of faith is a sister in Christ. I haven’t found one place where Jesus told us not to love every single one of them, though; so guess what I’m planning on doing?
Yet, with all these billions of different women in the world, where is this Perfect Christian Woman we are all afraid of?
“An excellent wife who can find?”
I’ll be exploring this during the next few weeks.


Honestly, I am pretty low on the percentage, even though my husband is a certified geek and even though we live near Silicon Valley…but I LOVE geek culture. It’s so much more interesting than literary culture (I am actually not even close to being angsty enough to even like to be *around* literature nerds).
Geeks are inventive, creative, smug (which can be good or bad, depending on your own smug %), and brimming with knowledge. This is where I excel: I know stuff about lots of stuff. If you have ever seen the Hepburn/Tracy movie, “Desk Set,” which is very unlikely….BUT YOU SHOULD WATCH IT….I would love to have Bunny Watson’s career. Her job is to know stuff so other departments can use her as a reference, and she works in the reference library, so she just researches stuff all day. She’s pre-google, I guess.

Also adding in the fact that I am feeding 7 people every day, and we homeschool, and Ben works from home…that adds up to a lot of meals every week. Things can get expensive if you don’t plan ahead!Now, this can be a very touchy subject for women. If couponing works for you, then for goodness sake, keep couponing! What I’m saying is for anyone who doesn’t have the time to coupon, who has very specific diets, and who need another idea, this is for you.
So, let’s just take coupons out of the equation entirely. How can you still be frugal, spend your money wisely, and not sacrifice the quality of food you feed your family?
Let’s break this down. This is how I see my grocery list. Do I have enough of each food group to serve quality, nutritious meals for every meal?
The 5 main food groups:
Grains – Bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, barley, quinoa, oatmeal
Fruits – apples, bananas, oranges, plums, grapes, cherries, peaches, pears, pineapple
Vegetables – zucchini, yellow squash, acorn squash, spaghetti squash, butternut squash, broccoli, brussel sprouts, green beans, corn, bok choy, cabbage, spinach, kale, lettuce, peas, turnips, beets
Dairy – milk, butter, yogurt, cheese,
Meat/Protein – eggs, chicken, lamb, beef, pork, turkey, ham, fish, soy, beans
Fats/Oils/Sugar – olive oil, coconut oil, sesame oil, canola oil, butter, lard, crisco, sugar, brown sugar, agave sugar
My contention with using coupons is that it doesn’t fit into my model of eating. I’ll give you an example:
The other day I was looking around on frugal sites, and I ran across a list of things someone bought for $51. And it was quite a bit of stuff! From that perspective, she really did make out like a bandit. But when I looked at her stash, it was all useless to me. The problem for me is that it isn’t going to make it very long in this house. This is what it broke down to –
Now, for $51 that is quite a stash! No two ways about it. I could probably go 2 days on this, which is pretty good. But frozen pizzas are not on our menu, ever. And chicken drumsticks are not very filling, especially for the brood we have growing here. And I don’t buy storebought chili, I make it myself. The box of minute rice might feed half the family, but it isn’t going to go very far since I make a pot of 4 cups of rice for dinner. And the 2 boxes of Cheerios aren’t going to last long…
So, even though it is a great stash, it isn’t practical at all for a large family.
What do you do, then?
1) Instead of the 6 bottles of laundry soap, make your own laundry soap. I go through a large bottle of laundry soap a month for our amount of laundry. That averaged about $25/month, which is not a big deal. But when you add $25 to your grocery bill, on top of everything else, it is a heavy weight on the bill. Instead, I bought a box of borax, a box of Arm & Hammer Washing Soda, a few bars of Fels-Naptha and I made my own. Total amount for the material? $25. How long has it lasted me? Over a year. That is at least $300 savings, alone. That might not seem like much to some, but that is one less thing I have to budget every month, and it is fantastic. Think about what else you can make yourself in your home! Ever looked into vinegar for housecleaning?
2) Get your protein whole. This means, buy eggs as eggs. Buy beans as beans (not in a can). Get meat as meat. I stopped buying chicken pieces years ago and just buy whole chickens. Don’t think of meat as a “frozen lasagna,” or “frozen chicken enchiladas.” Think of meat as buying the meat. One whole chicken at Costco is $4. Buying a $20 50lbs. bag of pinto beans will last you months upon months. Same goes for rice. If you start freezing meats, it will last you all year!
3) No buying premade meals. These things are full of oils, fillers and cheap material. It isn’t worth it to you or your wallet to get them. Example: if you make taquitos from scratch, you only need to eat 3; as opposed to 12 frozen taquitos. If you make your hamburger buns from scratch, you only need one bun per person, rather than serving the fluff burger buns you buy in the store. Real food fills you up a whole lot more than premade food. I’m not promoting any philosophies that premade meals are all filled with weird things and made by machines in factories….what I’m saying is, you will get better nutrition and better bang for your buck if you make it yourself. Plus, you’ll look totally awesome doing it.
4) Break your list down. If you are buying something, especially in bulk, try to get it to $1 or less per item. This is hard to do, and it just takes a lot of practice, but it is a great habit to get into. For example, at one store bell peppers are $1.50. I need 2 or 3 per meal, so that’s up to $4.50 just in bell peppers. Same goes for tomatoes, apples and oranges. If you buy them in bulk, it’s about $5 for the bag, which comes out to $.80 per bell pepper. Also, look for fruit and vegetables that are big and cheap, like pineapple. One pineapple is $3. That is a great deal! A large bag of spinach will last weeks upon weeks, if you put fresh paper towels in the bag to absorb the moisture. That spinach can go in salads, smoothies, sandwiches, casseroles, stirfries…that is a good ingredient that doesn’t cost much that can go a long way.
So, just an example meal:
Chicken Cacciatore
1 can of stewed tomatoes $1
2 sliced bell pepper $1.66
1 whole chicken $4
1 bag of gluten free pasta $4
Total = $10.66
That is what I’m looking for. Good, wholesome food with real ingredients that fills up the family and gives everyone good nutrition…without breaking the bank every night. One thing that I am in favor of is frozen vegetables, but notall frozen vegetables. Frozen bell peppers are fine. Frozen broccoli is squishy, so not fine. Frozen peas, fine. Frozen okra, very fine. Frozen carrots, absolutely forbidden.
Use more with less.
5) Invest in recipe books that suit your style. This will help you find out what to do with all this whole food! Now, I am not a crockpot person. To me, anything that goes into a crockpot is going to come out squishy, and it’s just not worth it. This is one of the reasons why I bought myself an electric pressure cooker: it suited my style of cooking perfectly. I can make a whole pot of chili from dried beans in an hour. I can make split pea soup from dried peas in 11 minutes. One whole chicken takes 26 minutes to cook, and I can use the broth to make rice in 8 minutes. This appliance suited the needs for my home, and it has been worth every penny to us. But if you are a crockpot cooker, put that sucker on the counter and use it every day! If you love baking, get out your pans and get to it!
Food is a major part of our culture, and homemade food is part of our lives. Make the most of it, and be good stewards of your food, your money and your time.

For the most part, you run a tight ship, but there are days when you don’t clean the kitchen as well as usual or when you don’t mind when the living room isn’t actually cleaned up entirely before bed. You have to expect that some days you are just too exhausted to care about the crayons that are still on the kitchen table, or the clothes that are still on the couch. Maybe everyone has been sick, maybe it’s been a busy day, maybe you just need a break from being on top of everything.But you don’t skimp on the big things… just little things.
We all know that those little things add up over time, and in this house they can add up over a day.
What surprised me by the end of yesterday, after going through every room with a broom getting every lego, every sippy cup and every toy out from under every bed, was not how much stuff the kids have. There is a rotation system we have between the toys in the house and the toys in the garage, so there aren’t mountains of toys all over the place.
What was surprising was the amount of trash that was hiding in every pile!
Not trash like banana peels or rotten food…just trash like old drawings, leftover wrapping paper, old worksheets, broken clothespins, fluff from pillows, etc.
But it all added up to be a monster of a problem. The surprising thing is that when we first began our cull of the mess, it looked like we had a ridiculous amount of things that we had to figure out where to put. I thought it would take all week to get this done! Yet, once we put all the trash into 3 large black trashbags (yes, that much!!), the amount of things to put away really wasn’t that much. That task didn’t take that long.
So this got me thinking: isn’t this a common problem for us?
We look at a problem that seems overwhelming, that looks like this mountain that will take all the effort we have left in us to tackle?
Yet, when we get rid of the trash, we are only left with the things that actually matter to us.
This idea could easily be applied to cleaning our homes, of course…but couldn’t it also be applied to obligations we have signed up for, social groups we are part of, friendships, hobbies, work…
What do we find when we prune our trash? Do we see the people around us more clearly? Do we see what we have in a more grateful manner? Do we endeavor to relish the life and relationships that we find hidden underneath with a greater fervor?
Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives. – Anthony Robbins
This idea of pruning the piles and actually getting rid of it… getting it bagged and completely out of the house… really helps illuminate the life that we so often skim over when it is buried under needless mountains of unimportant trash.
but I am a stickler with respecting cultural formalities regarding holidays. I’m just a sentimentalist at heart. It’s the XX chromosome in me, which still thinks I can grow up to be Cinderella and talk to squirrels…but on my own terms. I emphatically reject Russell Stover’s. Either be interesting or just don’t, that’s the deal.So, Valentine’s Day was kind of a quandary for me.
When Ben and I were just starting out, we tried going out to dinner a couple times (this may have been just one time…why on earth did we go to Hungry Hunter? Whyy?) on Valentine’s Day. It is the cultural norm, and we just went with it.
Very quickly after (maybe once), we decided we had to make our own traditions. Because those crowds were insane, and the waiters/waitresses were stressed enough already, and I just want to get in and get out and go home. You seriously couldn’t pay me to go to a restaurant on February 14th then, or now.
We just might be introverts, after all!
Anyway, long story short, the tradition we started and kept for years was this: a new Hitchcock film and pizza either or Chinese.
This has been the greatest tradition, because I think we’ve seen all of Hitchcock’s films…even in his British film years. And I wouldn’t really recommend those.
This year we had to re-watch North by Northwest, and it was pretty good. It’s not Notorious, but really…what is?
4. Do nothing. The point of being antiestablishmentarian is not to do nothing. The point is to do it BETTER.
5. Stress out. It is the Platypus way to carve our own paths…enjoy carving 🙂
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