Wrestling with The Perfect Woman

“An excellent wife, who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” Proverbs 31:10

1930 Debutante Ball
Those delicate, diamond encrusted words hang on a delicate chandelier above the heads of so many Christian wives.  The Perfect Woman, with a 25 inch waist?  The Perfect Woman, with the worlds best meatloaf recipe?  The Perfect Woman, with the eternal spotless home?  Maybe the Perfect Woman who is constantly happy and never seems stressed about anything?But I have to wonder: does the Perfect Woman wrestle dirty?  Or does she know how to wrestle at all?  I imagine the Perfect Woman worrying about wrinkling her apron or smudging her gleaming shoes if she so much as bent over to even poke you…

So I just figure I’d win the match anyway.

I am a fighter by nature, and I don’t take failure for an acceptable answer, especially against mysterious women who can’t fight back.  Life is hard, and I intend to make the most of what I have; and pass the baton of Strength on to my children.  Whether it is financial, social, health or emotions…there will be thorns somewhere, and if you don’t find a way to deal with them, you will never see the roses.

My faith is my way of finding the roses. 

Christian women, in general, are across the board in terms of what they have experienced.  I know some women who were raised in the church, got married in the church and now serve in the church and are further raising their kids in said church.

There are other Christian women who found their faith when they were an adult, and have very different stories of how they lived.  Of course some were along the lines of, “I drank and partied and lived a hedonistic lifestyle, and then everything changed!”  But honestly, not everyone has this story and I think it’s a little pious to declare that every woman who isn’t a Christian is in this spot.  That’s a pretty high horse to fall from, and a slippery slope of judgement to start down.

The bottom line is: We’re just going to not touch that horse at all here.  The fact of the matter is that we are all sinners, and any facade of seniority means squat in the end.  Every woman on earth is a child of God, and every woman of faith is a sister in Christ.  I haven’t found one place where Jesus told us not to love every single one of them, though; so guess what I’m planning on doing?

Yet, with all these billions of different women in the world, where is this Perfect Christian Woman we are all afraid of?

“An excellent wife who can find?”

It seems like we shouldn’t be afraid of the Perfect Wife, but inspired by an Excellent Wife.

I’ll be exploring this during the next few weeks.


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