by Alex Mouravskiy
This is such an interesting idea. Do Mommy Bloggers matter?
I hadn’t considered Mommy Bloggers didn’t matter. It definitely takes a perspective outside of onesself to see if one matters. Or does it?
I was curious, just to be contrary, if Daddy Bloggers matter, and I was quite amused to see that not only do they matter, but they have their own website:
A few people who have commented on the worth of Mommy Bloggers are people like Jenna Hatfield who says, “http://www.blogher.com/mommy-blogging-remains-radical-act
But these still don’t answer the question, “Do Mommy Bloggers Matter?”
That is a question that raises the uncertainty of the inherent worth of a Mommy Blogger.
Does what these women do matter?
“When we place the power to define our worth in someone else’s hands, we are often told that we only want to be wanted. This artificial script leaves us with an extremely narrow role: to be a pleaser.“
–Victoria Pynchon (http://www.forbes.com/sites/shenegotiates/2011/10/12/what-is-a-woman-worth/)
I am very interested in solidifying my value, because the value of women is such a hot topic. My grandmother’s value was so low, she could not legally vote; so, logically, my value is greater. I live in a free country, I have a few college degrees and I have the freedom to drive, work and speak; these rights and freedoms are not allowed to women in other countries, so is it that my value is greater than theirs?
Although I don’t think so, I will say that the value of self that one believes in may be true for them, but it will not be true for everyone. My value in Iran is very different than my value in California, even though I am the same person in either place. So we have to conclude that my value is estimated by the people around me.
I’ll just predicate this idea by stating: That Sucks.
My worth can be determined by the people around me? Who gave them that ability? Really? What person can tell you what your worth is?
A very interesting interview with Christian author Carolyn Custis James explored her perspective of “God’s Purpose For Women”:
“Women know they’re fighting battles. They fight battles with and for themselves; they fight battles for their children or neighbors or communities. We know we’re warriors. And it’s good that we’re warriors with the men, not against the men. That’s very powerful.
These women throughout Scripture—Ruth and Naomi, Deborah, Mary of Nazareth—they’re warriors. They’re standing up for the kingdom; they’re doing the hard things God calls them to do. That gives us a handle on who we are, and that can’t be taken away.”
When I see questions like, “Do Mommy Bloggers Matter,” I feel the battle of the value of being a woman. I don’t like it, because I understand the worth within myself. I know for an absolute fact that my husband values me above all the worth in the world. My children value me as the greatest mother on earth, and my family understands my great value; as I understand theirs.
But I realize that not everyone shares my view. Not everyone understands the value of women.
And this is a battle it seems we will always be fighting.
My favorite chapter of the Bible is Proverbs 31.
I can identify with the woman in that chapter, not because of everything she accomplishes, which can be a little overwhelming to read, but because of the inner strength, and confident tenacity she has within her.
I am always fighting with how mankind values women, but I am steadfast in how God values women:
“A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.”
The fight we feel within us when someone questions our value is flimsy. I can simply turn the channel, close the browser or walk out of a room in order to dismiss the ridiculous claim that women somehow don’t matter…even if you have absurd follow-up statements like, “...I have nothing against mothers.”
Value is something that I believe is more important than people realize. As a person, we are always looking to see what our value is: Is it in our waistline? Our bank account? Do we find our value in how much we get accomplished every day, or by how much we are praised by other people?
Our societal value as a woman has definitely changed through the last century. On one hand, women gained the right to vote in 1920, so that was a huge step for us. On the other hand, the feminist viewpoint determined that the value of a woman was still not equal to the value of a man, and thus began the struggle for women to be “just as good as men.”
As opposed to having value within oneself.
Yet, in Proverbs 31, we see how God values women:
“She is far more precious than jewels.“
But the thing is, even if someone didn’t see value in me, even if an entire nation saw me as a less valuable person…it really wouldn’t matter.
Because I was created byOne Greater than mankind, and One Mightier than nations, and I know my value to God.
And I love you too 😉